The most difficult part of moving your family to a new community is dealing with the older children. The American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry cites that this is because teenagers, being largely influenced by their peers, find it harder to adjust. Your role as parents would be significant and helping them.
Help them catch up in academics
Difficulty in catching up may cause distress on your children, so try to enroll them in an online summer school. This will help them be more confident and less intimidated when they go to a new school with new classmates.
Trust that your teenage children are mature enough to understand why you need to move. Instead of talking in circles or answering with a “because we just have to,” be transparent with them. Explain truthfully and ask for their understanding and patience.
Research with them
Involve them when researching the new city or community. Share with them interesting things that you see about the new place. Also, ask for their opinions and let them decide on the little things like what restaurant you would want to try first.
Suggest groups and activities to join
Knowing your children’s interests and hobbies, you may want to look into possible communities that they can join. For example, if your teen is a football player, encourage them to try out for the football team in the neighborhood. You may also want to suggest interesting events in the area that you can check out, such as concerts and exhibits.
Let them keep in touch
You know very well how it feels to be missing out on all the things happening within your circle of friends. If it’s convenient, give them permission to see their friends every so often. At the same time, encourage them to make new friends and be eager in meeting them.
Moving to a new community with your family is a challenge for all of you, but the teenage children are the most affected. Don’t discount their feelings. Take this transition to bond and form a stronger relationship, and make it easier for them to adjust.